Saturday, May 17, 2014

Lupita

Life in El Salvador can be so difficult, and then, life in El Salvador can be so lovely.  Our work with the young women here in Central America gives us many opportunities to experience first-hand the desperate situation of family life in El Salavador.  It also gives us the chance to come along-side precious, beautiful, desperate young women, many times, young mothers, to offer them simple things that they just don’t have, and that we take for granted.  Hope, opportunity, love.  When you speak truth into someone’s life, and they hear it, it has the potential to open up their life like nothing else.  All of a sudden, their world has expanded, it has become so much bigger than they ever imagined.  Possibilities take shape that were never there before.  That is what we see happening in Lupita's life.  

Lupita and her daughter, Keyri, have been living with us since February  She made this big, crazy move from life in a small pueblo, to a totally different life in the big city.  Not to mention, the change of leaving behind extended family…mom, sisters, nieces and nephews…the only home she has ever known, and moving into the home of North Americans.  THAT is a culture shock for sure!  She is eating different food, learning a new language, and experiencing something new and strange every day. Our family! :)  Since Keyri (pronounced: Katie) was born Lupita has worked nearly every day 7 to 7.  Lupita has never experienced the day to day life of being a mom.  She has now!  At first, it was just fun and games.  She was just loving being with her sweet daughter all the time, and just soaking it up.  But, the honeymoon period came to an end, and she is learning that being a mom is hard work, work that never stops. She struggles with knowing how to discipline her.  She is a great mom, full of love and patience.  But, here in El Salvador, we see that very, very few people have any idea how to raise children in a healthy, balanced way. There is no one that we know of that is attempting to equip parents. What we see generally, is that children are indulged, and then, when parents are exasperated with their indulged children, they snap and yell at them and hit them.  Then, they tell everyone who will listen how naughty their children are, yet they have not a clue what to do about it.  Lupita is very patient, but, I can see her patience waning.  One day, we were chatting about her day, and she was telling me all that Keyri had done that day…and how tired out she was from it.  At that point, Keyri yelled for her momma, and Lupita said, with a wry, exhausted smile, “Here comes mommy, the slave of Keyri.”  She rarely says ‘no’ to her little angel.  And her little angel knows just how to play her momma!  So, this is an area I have been praying about just how to speak into Lupita’s life without being offensive.  I have given her a book to read, and she has discussed some thoughts from the book with me. This week I plan to sit down with her and talk more in depth about this.  Please pray for wisdom and direction. 


This isn’t the only thing we need to talk about.  Lupita is really the seed of this ministry to women.  We are at the beginning, taking baby steps and learning as we go.  We want to take it slow, and make wise decisions. But, we feel that it’s time, after 3 months for her transition, to take stock, see where we are at, and start planning.  So, this week, I will be talking to Lupita about the next steps, and forming our plan for her stay with us.  As of March 1st, she has been taking English classes and working very hard at it.   She wants to attend university or a technical school and gain education towards a better future for herself and her family.  We don’t yet have the funds to pay for this, and are waiting on God. The cost of higher education in El Salvador is extremely low compared to the states.  We are talking around $100.00 per month.  As we begin to look into what direction Lupita wants to go with her studies, we will keep you posted if you are interested in helping provide this opportunity for her. 
 If you are asking how you can help right now,  we could really use some assistance with her English classes, which cost $80.00 per month.   This is not a college class, but, a private teacher.  Learning English will be key in opening up her future options for employment. 
 As ministry costs begin to increase, we know that where God guides, God will provide.  With the costs of Lupita, Keyri, Daniela, Nelsi and the extended family we are trying to reach out to, we are definitely in need of more financial support. We are blessed by your willingness to pray, care and give so that young women can have an opportunity they would otherwise not have for a better future. 
 
 We are still in the process of legally establishing our own foundation.  This week, we are
taking the final steps to finish the paperwork, and hope that by the end of next week, everything will be ready to be handed over to the proper authorities.  Please pray that God will guide this process, and give us favor with those who make the decisions.  Our foundation name will be, “Hope for Families Foundation”. In El Salvador, it will be, “Fundacion Esperanza para Las Familias”.  The home for young women will be named, “Lupita’s Hope”.  We are praying and seeking the Lord’s direction and provision for renting a home, separate from our family home, for this ministry.  God has laid this on our hearts, and we trust again, that if it's His will, the windows of heaven will open up and we will have the funds for this project.  Until then, our private home will be Lupita's Hope.  We are expecting that God will show us the next young woman we are supposed to take in.  


 

1 comment:

  1. Good morning, how are you?

    My name is Emilio, I am a Spanish boy and I live in a town near to Madrid. I am a very interested person in knowing things so different as the culture, the way of life of the inhabitants of our planet, the fauna, the flora, and the landscapes of all the countries of the world etc. in summary, I am a person that enjoys traveling, learning and respecting people's diversity from all over the world.

    I would love to travel and meet in person all the aspects above mentioned, but unfortunately as this is very expensive and my purchasing power is quite small, so I devised a way to travel with the imagination in every corner of our planet. A few years ago I started a collection of used stamps because through them, you can see pictures about fauna, flora, monuments, landscapes etc. from all the countries. As every day is more and more difficult to get stamps, some years ago I started a new collection in order to get traditional letters addressed to me in which my goal was to get at least 1 letter from each country in the world. This modest goal is feasible to reach in the most part of countries, but unfortunately, it is impossible to achieve in other various territories for several reasons, either because they are very small countries with very few population, either because they are countries at war, either because they are countries with extreme poverty or because for whatever reason the postal system is not functioning properly.

    For all this, I would ask you one small favor:
    Would you be so kind as to send me a letter by traditional mail from El Salvador? I understand perfectly that you think that your blog is not the appropriate place to ask this, and even, is very probably that you ignore my letter, but I would call your attention to the difficulty involved in getting a letter from that country, and also I don’t know anyone neither where to write in El Salvador in order to increase my collection. a letter for me is like a little souvenir, like if I have had visited that territory with my imagination and at same time, the arrival of the letters from a country is a sign of peace and normality and an original way to promote a country in the world. My postal address is the following one:

    Emilio Fernandez Esteban
    Avenida Juan de la Cierva, 44
    28902 Getafe (Madrid)
    Spain

    If you wish, you can visit my blog www.cartasenmibuzon.blogspot.com where you can see the pictures of all the letters that I have received from whole World.

    Finally, I would like to thank the attention given to this letter, and whether you can help me or not, I send my best wishes for peace, health and happiness for you, your family and all your dear beings.

    Yours Sincerely

    Emilio Fernandez

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